8 Things You Can Do To Make Eid Visits Awesome

Eid is awesome in general. Family, food and fun. It is about keeping the familial ties intact by visiting each other, and showing your care and concern while you share mouthwatering dishes and delicious kueh. But there are times when we might get a little too enthusiastic about our hosts' or guests' lives, and our questions or answers might offend them.

Here are 8 things you can do, either as a guest or a host, to make Eid awesome and even memorable.

1) Dress to Impress. It is important for you to be well dressed, both as a guest and a host. It is no problem for a guess to dress to the nines as they will be all dolled up to go around visiting. But if you are a host, don't forget to dress up as well! It is a way of welcoming guests to your house, to show that their visiting means a lot to you. Put on some light makeup, wear something elegant and presentable as you serve drinks to your guest.

2) Praise your guest! Or your host, even. When visiting a house, try to overlook any mess or defect, and focus on how the host has made an effort to make their house look presentable for this festive season. It warms the heart of the host when their efforts are met with positive feedback, be it with the new curtains, or new carpet. Likewise, as the host, it would be kind for you to welcome your guests graciously and pay a compliment or two for their gesture. Complimenting their new hijab would not hurt either!

3) Eat to your heart's desire. Well, you don't need to clear out the kitchen but it is only polite for you to eat what has been served. Personally, I am not a fan of lontong, ketupat or lemang, but I always make an effort to eat them whenever I go out for Eid visits. It really makes the host feel a lot better to see people enjoying their food. Just make sure not to gorge too much and leave nothing for the next guests waiting outside!

4) Communicate with your host. It is only courteous for you to engage in small talk. Your intention is to strengthen silaturrahim, not to just step into the house to enjoy some food. Never ask for wifi passwords or even ask if you can change the channels on the television. It is their house, and as a guest, we should be communicating with them instead of finding ways to deviate from conversation. Even if you don't talk much, at least just sit quietly and answer questions when you are asked something.

5) Answer graciously. There are bound to be people who get a little too interested in you. They would ask questions ranging from your cumulative GPA, to your current job, to your marital status and the number of children your cousin has. Answer politely, without adding in your personal feelings to it. If you do not wish to disclose the answer in detail, answer with "Alhamdulillah, it is good enough for me." And if the question is regarding something you cannot determine, such as marriage, answer it, "InshaAllah, do keep me in your prayers." Ask for doa, and doa for them to be understanding as well.

6) Don't wander around. Only enter a room when you are allowed to. This is a house visit, not a showroom! You have no right to go into different rooms of the house to learn about the different people of the house. Stay in the living room or dining area, and enjoy the host's company first.

7) Ask for permission. There are times when you need to use the bathroom, or perhaps to have some space to pray or to feed your babies. It is fine for you to ask for some personal space, but do ask for permission and before that, check that it is convenient for the hosts. They might be busy using the rooms as well. And as a host, it would be gracious of you to provide a room for prayers. You will reap some rewards for letting people perform ibadah in your home as well!

8) Make dua. At the end of the visit, thank your guests for coming to your house, and silently make dua for them to have a smooth journey home, and that Allah shower them with barakah. Likewise, as a guest, thank your hosts and silently make dua that Allah continue to show them with blessings and rezeki to welcome more guests. Wish your guests and your hosts a Selamat Hari Raya as well!

I hope you have benefited from this post. I would like to seek your forgiveness for any wrongdoing or errors on my part, and I pray for your good health and happiness! May Allah azzawajjal accept all your prayers and ibadah in this blessed month, and may we observe istiqamah in the coming months. Taqabal Allahu Minna Waminkum. May Allah accept it from you and us.
With that, I would like to wish all of you Selamat Hari Raya! Maaf zahir dan batin.😄

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